Media personality, entrepreneur, and boss lady Toke Makinwa has always been known for her fearless honesty, and in a recent episode of her podcast, she got real about turning 40, being single, and not having children. Eyes Of Lagos reports,
For many women, hitting 40 comes with a wave of societal expectations—marriage, motherhood, and the so-called “perfect life.” But Toke is flipping the script. Instead of drowning in self-pity, she is embracing her truth, her journey, and her incredible achievements.
“I Said It – And I Didn’t Die!” – Toke On Being 40 & Single
In a deeply personal conversation, Toke Makinwa revealed that admitting to herself that she was 40, single, and childless often made her emotional.
“I am 40, I am single, and I am childless. I said it, and I didn’t die. And that always made me tear up.”
She spoke about the moments of self-reflection, questioning how she got to this point in life without a husband or children. But rather than let societal pressure define her happiness, she chooses to focus on everything she has built, achieved, and conquered.
“I look at my life like—wow, I am 40 and a boss! I have built an empire. I am one of the most resounding voices in Africa. I have a loving family. I am in great health. I love what I do, and I am not waking up miserable.”
Marriage? Toke Believes She Would Have Been Divorced Again
Reflecting on relationships, Toke boldly admitted that if she had remarried after her first marriage ended in 2016, she probably would have gone through another divorce.
“If I am completely honest with you guys, if I had gotten married again, I would have been divorced. Because the lessons never stop.”
For those who may not remember, Toke’s first marriage to fitness coach Maje Ayida crashed after just two years when it was revealed that he had fathered a child with another woman. That experience changed her perspective on love, marriage, and self-worth.
Now, she chooses to walk her own path, embracing life on her own terms rather than settling for something that doesn’t serve her happiness.
“You Can’t Shame the Shameless” – Toke’s Message to Critics
One thing about Toke Makinwa—she owns her truth unapologetically. In a society where marital status and motherhood are often used to define a woman’s worth, she refuses to be boxed in.
“You need to sit with your truth, and when you do so, you can’t shame the shameless.”
Her message is powerful: Women do not need to conform to outdated expectations to be happy, successful, or complete.
Final Thoughts – Redefining Womanhood & Success
Toke Makinwa is proof that life does not have a fixed timeline. Success, love, and fulfillment come in different forms—not just through marriage and motherhood, but through purpose, passion, and self-love.
Her story is a reminder to women everywhere:
✅ You are enough, just as you are.
✅ Success is defined by YOU, not society.
✅ Your happiness matters more than outdated expectations.
So, what’s your take on Toke’s perspective? Do you agree that society places too much pressure on women regarding marriage and children? Drop your thoughts in the comments! 👇🏽🔥
