“Today Is My Wedding, But I Ran Away” — Nigerian Woman Sparks Online Debate

A Nigerian woman has sparked widespread debate on social media after revealing that she deliberately skipped her own wedding, citing emotional distress and family pressure as reasons for her decision. Eyes Of Lagos reports,

The woman, identified as a TikTok user @adetutuifemi, shared a video explaining that although her wedding was scheduled for the day of the post, she chose not to attend the ceremony. According to her, the relationship with her fiancé had been unstable, as he had previously ended the relationship before later returning to seek reconciliation.

In the viral video, she said:

“Today is my wedding, but I did not go to the wedding. He broke up with me and later came back to beg. We did an introduction because my family asked me to bring a man.”

She explained that despite proceeding with the traditional introduction ceremony due to family insistence, she was never fully convinced about getting married. On the wedding day, she reportedly left Lagos for Kaduna, choosing her emotional well-being over societal and familial expectations.

The woman also offered advice to others searching for a life partner, urging them to “find him in Lagos,” a statement that further fueled conversations online.

The video has attracted mixed reactions from social media users. While many praised her courage for prioritising her peace of mind, others criticised the families involved for allegedly pressuring the couple into marriage.

One commenter wrote, “It is better to cancel a wedding than to enter a marriage filled with regret.”

The incident has reignited conversations around the pressure many women face to marry despite emotional uncertainty, highlighting the growing call for personal choice and emotional readiness in marital decisions.