“Why Must I Wake Up by 4am to Cook?” — Lady Sparks Marriage Debate Online

A young Nigerian woman has ignited heated conversations on social media after expressing strong views about marriage, stating that the expectations placed on women are the reason she believes she may never get married.

In a video that has since gone viral on X (formerly Twitter), shared by user @honest30bgfan, the lady questioned why women are often expected to wake as early as 4 a.m. to cook for their husbands, describing the routine as excessive and unrealistic. Eyes Of Lagos reports,

According to her, many men place overwhelming importance on food in marriage, making cooking feel like a constant obligation rather than a shared responsibility.

She argued that the pressure to prepare meals daily is one of the major reasons marriage appears stressful and unappealing to her.

“Why must I wake up by 4am to cook?” she asked in the video.

The lady also revealed additional personal deal-breakers, noting that she would struggle to share a bed with a man who snores, adding that she finds it intolerable.

Her comments quickly triggered mixed reactions online, with social media users divided over traditional marital roles and modern relationship expectations.

While some users agreed with her stance, others criticised her remarks, insisting that cooking remains a woman’s responsibility in marriage.

Reacting to the video, one commenter wrote, “As far as my husband is providing my needs, I don’t have any excuse.”
Another added, “Feminist women have come again.”

The video continues to fuel discussions around gender roles, marriage expectations, and evolving relationship dynamics in Nigerian society.

“ This is why I can never get married, because how do you expect me to wake up 4am to cook for my husband, all men know is food everytime” pic.twitter.com/2267YqOnj6

— honest30bgfan (@honest30bgfan_) January 13, 2026